Dear T,Although I'm not the one dealing with this question/problem, I feel an urge to commend you on the thoughtfullness and consideration implicit in your reply to this question. You have obviously spent a lot of time and energy figuring out ways that "newcomers" can relate to natives and native culture that are not oppressive or patronizing. I just wanted to let you know that somebody out here saw, understood, and appreciated what you were explaining. Keep up the good work!
Best regards,
Mary McCaffrey