Babies as alien beings? Dear Gawd; the notion of an unwanted child is itself a bit of an alien proposition.

But, that lies in the realm of pure elective opinion, I guess.

One thing is for sure. A coupling that produces this sort of strife is a couplig in which one or both parties were a little short in the department of personal responsibility. Seems to me, for better or for worse, if you do something that has unintended consequences, you take the responsibility for it. I have walked both sides of this street, having been relatively immature and relatively mature at different times in my life (never mind when!). All I can say is the approach of being willing to take full repsonsibility for one's own choices -- male or female -- is the only path that works, IMHO.

There are no guarantees that life will be a bed of roses; so what? Welcome to the human conundrum.

That said, I think entrapment by false reassurance is a pretty low trick, when it happens.

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