Oh, for heaven's sake. Lighten up. Under circumstances like this, its okay to be a GUEST to save embarrassment.

Ditto the comments above about "power surges" and mood swings. I HIGHLY recommend the book by Susan Weed, entitled "Menopausal Years - the Wise Woman Way."

I made it through both peri and menopause by using tinctures of dandelion root and hawthorn berry on a daily basis. Years later and no drying up or loss of interest in intimacy. I believe a lot of it has to do with accepting it is a natural process and eschew the Western medicine route of trying to "fix" it; it ain't broke, it's evolving.:-)

Be patient and supportive and keep having fun...it's not an age thing unless you let it be.:-)