Peri menopause was so bad for me that my GP started me on HRT. That sorted out the problems (one week of normalcy a month and three weeks of going out of my head). Believe me, those symptoms can take over your life, even if you are aware of what is going on. I would cross the road to avoid talking to friends during the bad periods and home life was not pleasant for my family. The worst thing was that I was aware of what I was doing but did not seem able to stop the process. That brings on guilt, which leads to more depression and the cycle goes on.

I felt great for quite a few years on HRT but then developed cancer of the womb and had a total hysterectomy. That left me with some of the symptoms - hot flushes mostly - but not nearly as much of a problem as my mother had - very bad depression, for which she lived on Valium for a good few years.

When I started on HRT I wasn't aware of the alternatives and, to be honest, was doing so well on the stuff that I probably wouldn't have switched anyway.

Every woman will be different but I think that, if you hear enough of other people's experiences it does help you to weigh up the pros and cons for yourself. Sounds to me Curious, as if your wife is lucky to have someone who cares enough to research the situation and to give support. Mind you, your wife probably deserves that! Good luck to you both.