I think the real problem here isn't arrogant Americans, but just simply that someone doesn't like to be told "No". Regardless of how many other American sellers have agreed when prompted further, it's up to the individual whether they will break their "US shipping only" rules and you just have to live with it. It would be one thing if the auction offered international shipping and then that offer was revoked. But if they've said right up front that they don't want to ship outside the US and they mean it, then I'm afraid you're SOL, my friend.