Susan. this is it! We obviously inhabit the same sort of universe. were I not embarked a upon a lifetime of debauchery and idleness - a bigammous offer of marriage would be inthe next post.

Its only in the fan magazines that the great artists are well adjusted , sweet tempered sweety pies.

For example, Woody Guthrie, by all accounts seems to have made himself disagreeable to both Pete Seeger and Ronnie Gilbert - but who wouldn't want to have met him and seen and learned from seeing that great creative process up close.

And most of these tin pot folk club gods have arrived at the feeling that they're pretty hot shit - because they DO have something to offer. It might not be something you can learn from - but you should be aware that that skill exists - the situation where it works, and where it doesn't.

At the very least before you leave. Make a list of what was good about the band, what you want to take forward with you.

That way you won't end up like me, an old idiot who passed up on a great musical partner without noticing the fact for about 25 years.