...I notice with some of the posters' practice habits that it would be difficult for them to play in a band,..

Good point Seamus, I hate jamming which is probably very similar to playing in a band.

I find it difficult to hear myself and others at the same time, possibly because for the first few years of my working life I had a job where it was essential to cut out background noise.

P'raps if I practice more I'll get better at it.