"... their is NEVER any excuse for even one single abusive personal attack posted publicy by anyone on a fellow poster..."

excuse? Maybe not--- excuses are granted by others, not defined by context. What does often exist is clear and obvious reasons for responding to provocation with strong words when gentle words have no effect. Everyone has subjective reasons for what they say or do. [I answer your barrage of complaints because they are unfair, full of contradictions and logical flaws and ignore the basic management structure of the forum.]
...but Roger, you define 'abusive' pretty broadly. Truly abusive comments have to be understood in context. Good friends sometimes call each other 'idiot' or 'asshole', and never mean or understand anything beyond a mild rebuke by it. Almost no one EVER takes the terms literally.

True abuse and personal 'attacks' are more serious. Calling someone a lacky, or a Nazi, or a child abuser, or a liar crosses the line in a serious way, as these are meant (usually) to be real accusations. No one actually believes you (Shambles) IS an 'idiot', but that is sure easier to type and conveys a feeling more than "you are a confused and compulsive person who fails to comprehend the more sublime nuances of the interactive parameters of the relationships between the moderators and the members of this forum". 'Idiot' was used once, in a way that suggests that petty nit-picking was involved. The 'behavior' of criticizing the minor editing a thread title for clarity was EXTREME...not the sort of behavior that one would expect from a reasonable man, and a short pithy word was used to express displeasure at gratuitous nit-picking. OK? No, I suppose not...

Brief synopsis...don't do so much useless complaining, and you won't have any sharp words directed at you.

You may have heard the aphorism:"The squeaky wheel gets the grease." But the truth is, it sometimes just gets taken off and replaced.