Original, insightful, compassionate, thoughtful, enthusiastic, helpful, energetic, constructive, creative, kind, friendly, supportive, motivating, funny, attractive and intelligent. These all seem appropriate descriptions of Áine's nature.

So unless she's been leading a terribly deceptive double life, the relationship you have chosen to take toward her kind of puts you in the position of looking sneaky, cowardly, underhanded, smallminded, petty, inarticulate, undereducated, self-centered, uncaring, ignorant, inexperienced, immorally underdeveloped, bitter, spiteful, neurotic, unaware, unkindly, demoralized, introverted, egotistical, selfserving, thoughtless, useless and stupid.

But it's your choice, "deary" -- may you find the joy of it where no-one else can see any! I think it's over on alt.sci.psych.biteme.

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