Art,
    My take on the situaation is that I'm not black enough to use the word nigger, Irish enough to use the word Paddy, and so on. It is courtesy thing.

    As for your relatives' view of SLC, the city is heavily LDS, and they tend to cooperate with each other, so it is difficult for a Gentile or non-believer to get along. An aquaintance's father ran a struggling grocery store there some years back and complained that he was nearly failing because the people around the store would walk a block to buy from an LDS owned store, rather than but from him, next door.

   This having been said, there has been some ACLU action about the church trying to run protestors off from the streets around the Temple. I think the land was recently deeded to the city, so the issue becomes a freedom of speach on public property issue.

Dave