Hmmmmmmmmm!
Maybe if everyone met up and chatted instead of trying to figure out what everyone else meant from a few typed words, there would be less difference of opinion, or at least more understanding of everyone else's stance on this....LOL!
On reading the above, and knowing one or two of the posters, i think you would all actually get on quite well if you met instead of just trying to interpret a person's views from a few words. Not getting at anyone but I think most of us have similar hopes...that being...to find places to play music and enjoy like minded people's company, LOL again!
I think if I go to sessions again, I will aim to be more confident at introducing myself. Stating politely, like Doug did,(rather than apologising, like I tend to have done, sometimes) that I am going to try joining in but may only manage a few bars here and there at first...AND that I will play quietly, (!) until I get the tune, sounds like a good idea, to me.
I think I will hopefully try the Reely Grim night at Rothwell, again, after so many positive comments about it.
Incidently, I know it is off the thread, again, but, just because you don't know many traditional tunes, doesn't mean you aren't a competent musician, just that you haven't got much experience in that particular strand of music. Of course, everyone knew that, sorry if I am saying something obvious. No matter, how nice most people are, there are always a few who like to make themselves feel better by putting others down,it is is just the same with musicians...a very small minority can spoil it for others. I am fortunate, I have not met many like that. Good luck with the Lincoln session (my attempt to pretend I was sticking with this thread, whoops!)