I really hesitated before I started this thread, and then hesitiated again before 'Submit Message'. I'm glad I did now. You've all been so kind and supportive, and for that I'm very grateful. I asked for your wisdom, and you gave it. And you're all right: I do know what I need to do - but I'm so afraid of the pain of doing it. But then I ask myself: in the long run, is the pain of finally parting ways better or worse, longer or shorter, than the pain of *not* finally parting ways and carrying on "as normal" in this abnormal relationship? You all knew the answer - and, really, so do I. Thank you all.