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Thread #92296 Message #1764588
Posted By: GUEST
20-Jun-06 - 09:25 AM
Thread Name: UK club regulars - look after strangers!
Subject: RE: UK club regulars - look after strangers!
I guess I'm resonding to Barbara's point about some people finding it difficult to 'jump in' - it's a tricky one as I also know people who find being asked & saying no very stressful and who won't go to an event if they think they'll be asked to sing because they feel like they're being pressured into it, no matter how gently the asker tries to say 'but only if you want to'. I guess it's a question of trying to get the balance right and accepting that there will always be times when its not perfect for everybody...
... must admit though that I also think the individual can and maybe should take some responsibility for making things turn out the way they'd like. Yes it's nice to be asked & welcomed & invited, but sometimes in an informal setting the people who are already there find talking to a new face just as intimidating as the new face does. I've been in plenty of situations where I know this is the case...