weelittledrummer - There's not much you can do about the past except accept that it happened but that you have moved on. Is it your own past actions that concern you or other people's view of you? It is surprising what effect the opinions of others can have on the individual psyche - in common with a lot of other people I was badly affected by the negative view of my parents toward me and it took a long time to get past that and realise that they were wrong. Now if someone makes an negative comment about me I stop to think whether there is any truth in it and what I can do to change it. However, I also look at the person making the comment just to see whether it is their problem, not mine.

Right now Kendall and I are awaiting the news that a dear friend has died. When he and Kendall first knew each other Frank was a real bastard and they hated each other. They met again, through a mutual friend, Andy, many years later and Frank admitted that he had behaved badly to just about everyone in his life but that spending time with Andy and Kendall had changed his view on life in general. When I met him he was one of the sweetest old guys I have known and it was surprising to learn about his past behaviour and attitudes.

It is never too late to change your ways, for most people.