I dont think you can please everyone all the time. It reminds me of an incident as a child in a friends house. Our whole family was visiting at the time. My friends mother made some special snack (like head cheese or something I couldnt stand at the time). Anyway, as it would be rude to refuse I ate it quickly to get past the gagging reflex. "Oh you must like that so much, have some more" said my friends mom **groan**. I think you can substitute food for music in this case. As a guest I dont think it should be a big deal to pick some music, although some hosts like to be in complete control. At the other extreme are guests that bring their own cd collection and insist on playing their own. It shouldnt be a big deal, for the hostess to have a request for a change of music anymore than it should be a big deal to grin and bear it as a guest. One thing, was the hostess humiliated by the request or maybe that word got around after you complained privately to your friend. Cheers Petr./