'GUEST 22 Jun 06 - 09:52 AM ', don't worry. If the person under discussion was personally known to Mudcatters I would never have started this thread.

'GUEST 24 Jun 06 - 01:18 AM', thanks for that. I think I understood most of it!

'GUEST 23 Jun 06 - 10:55 PM', I think almost anyone reading this thread would agree with you. All the other contributions testify to that. If anyone envied me, as 'GUEST 23 Jun 06 - 10:55 PM' suggests, I would soon convince them overwise. In that case, why have I put up with all of this? That's a question I had answers for in the past, but they no longer seem valid now. Having started this thread wondering if I was doing the right thing, I have received wisdom and counsel which has been a huge help and support. We all need understanding at difficult key points in our lives, preferrably from someone who has stood in our shoes. I have had that, and for that I can only express my deepest gratitude.