Thanks for that post Ebbie. Your mother and yourself are obviously kind and loving people, embodying the best female gifts, the ability to give love and nurture children.

In a way your post reinforces my point in that a male couple could never bring to any child the nurturing qualities of a female.
It is clear that you feel very strongly about this issue as you write with such emotion and the last thing I want to do is upset a genuinly good person

I dont want to repeat myself, but I dont think your comparisons are quite right. I have no reason to believe that Black people lame people or blind people would not make fine parents, although the extent of their disability would obviously have to be taken into account if they were to be foster parents.

There are of course some groups who would not in my opinion be suitable foster parents. Those groups would include people addicted to drugs or those suffering from psychiatric disorders...so not everyone should be given custody of a child just because their lives feel incomplete without one.

I was very touched by your post Ebbie and I hope you understand my real concerns over this issue,although you may not agree with them....Ake