Hey, Ron:

Sometimes you just have to let things sit. It brings to mind a line from a song that I wrote (don't even remember the song anymore..)

Somebody told me that Time was my friend.

It may not help that you really enjoy listening to your house-sitter sing and play piano. I'd probably stay away from that statement for awhile, too.

Give Jan some time to loosen up a little and put things in perspective. I hope that she does. It sounds like your house-sitter is a friend you don't want to lose. And it definitely doesn't sound good when Jan says she doesn't want the sitter in the house while she's there. Might even be worse if your house sitter came and the two of you enjoyed music together when Jan was gone.

My major caveat is that I have messed my life up grandly, many times. I am no one to give advice. But seein's as how you asked, I didn't want the request to be ignored..

I hope that things will level out and you and Jan can enjoy the company of your house sitter together.

Jerry