I had one kind of brief relationship with a man about 15 years younger than I, when I was in my mid-30's. I felt adventurous, but also like a cradle robber. We're still friends, see each other at festivals and such. He seems to have had a succession of relationships with women, all somewhat older than him. He's never seemed to actually set up a life of his own, with his own home or apt. He just seems to glom onto these women's lives. His trump card seems to be in NOT being pushy or macho, just being very available and willing. However, none of these relationships seems to have lasted for a very long time. Somehow he doesn't seem to have matured much over the years I've known him.

A relationship with a significant age difference often means dealing with being in different stages of life. ne partner may want to start a family, another feels too old to start all that, or has done that already. One is anticipating retiring, another is caught up in career stuff. Making it work is about bridging that gap. It's certainly worth trying if the gap seems bridgable.

All the best,

Mary Mccaffrey