Sorry Kara but please reread the post which you took your quote from. I said If as appears to be the case in so many different ways, the child/Mother/person gets food shelter and clothing in return for no apparent input other than occupying space. Please note the word IF which I have underlined, it qualifies the whole sentence, and makes it a postulation not an accusation.
As for the supposition on your part that I felt stigmatised, I assure you that at no time have I ever felt inadequate as a result of my status, either as a child or in later life.
I was brought up better than most of my contemporaries, and feel that many of them lacked for things that I had, and not the other way round. Stigma is a grown up concept, and the child will only feel stigmatised if their parent or a responsible adult tells them they are.
Giok