Not a cheap shot at all. I jump all over abusive and neglectful women...in this case I thought it was clearly obvious. The partner who turns a deaf ear, eye, whatever, is just as guilty in my book, and it quite often is the mother..oh but I love him..oh but he is wonderful when he is not drinking..oh I didn't notice he was gone from my bed for hours every night and my teenage daughter is acting strange...WHile they are each in jail, at the very least sterilize them. mg