My best wishes for the health and happiness of your mother, Jerry.

Mine is still going pretty strong at 91 and is within visiting distance, so she gets visits from myself (and two of my sisters as well) at least once a week. She gets to go out with her old neighborhood friends, and everyone at Asbury Home in Gaithersburg MD seems to love her and they take good care of the elderly there.

It's good to keep in touch and spend valuable time while you can. In the case of my mother, while she misses my dad, by whom she was always somewhat overshadowed personality wise, since he passed away and she doesn't have to constantly tend to him as she did for 13 years after his initial stroke, she has really blossomed on her own. We see parts of her personality and sense of humor that were never really let out fully and some things we didn't really know were there at all! she is a pleasure to be with and even a source of constant surprise to add to the regular amount of joy one gets from being with a parent. As circumstances change, one finds out how to still apperciate gaining new knowledge to match the old, and find new ways to give back in return.