Shambles, Joe's voice is not alone. There are many of us who would -and sometimes did - have spoken more harshly to you much earlier than Joe Offer did. You persist in saying, and possibly believing, that Joe's actions are the problem. Nicht so.

Personally I would rather that you not go away. I would far rather see you drop the subject and go to your strengths. Because, like it or not, Roger, this obsession is a weakness of yours.