Hey this is a great thread.
I think performing is horrible too.
I never feel I did all right and when people say nice things afterwards I feel that they are just being kind.
Sometimes it would be nice to have a band to play in so you can at least get to talk over the gig and problems etc with someone in the same position, I was in a band for a week or so but then one of the others decided they would rather stick to doing their own thing and I was dumped so never will get to find out if its better to have a post gig party or whatever sigh!!!!!!