I never say "does my bum look big in this?" I always ask "do I look good in this?"

For the women looking for nuance, there is PLENTY to be had from responses to that second question, and the nuance of the sentence itself is never "looking for a fight" or "my gosh I'm insecure" as it can be with the first.

You know, some clothes don't look so good on certain shapes... nothing wrong with the shapes, just don't buy those clothes!