I've been to a few funerals under various circumstances. The most memorable being a Humanist Service organised when the man found out he was terminally ill. Music by Sting and Hendrix,a eulogy by his uncle and SRO at the Crematorium.
I'm with Little Hawk. Circumstances dictate. I've paid my respects to vicims of accidents, suicides, cancer and in my parents case old age.
My mum, for instance, left money specifically for a meal and drinks for the friends and family. On other occasions, of course, there were no such good feelings.