When the person who died has indicated that they don't want a funeral, then you're kind of on your own in determining how and when you want to acknowledge the passing of that loved one. My Dad didn't want a funeral, and I felt like waiting a little while, to give people time to get over the shock and to move onto being able to tell stories and sing songs without crying would be a good thing. I live in Fort Worth, Texas, he died in Washington State. A friend of his who had the familiarity with local facilities and the folk scene set up a Song Circle event a few months later that we all attended, and it was a marvelous sendoff.

SRS