I think I know where from you come, Michelle, but you are putting your world view or religious view on a religion that does not share it. As I said, Jews do not expect non-Jews to follow their religious strictures, and unlike most God-based religions Judaism generally does not seek converts who would have to share those beliefs. So, if a non-Jew eats Beef Stroganoff--a mixture of meat and dairy--that is a-ok with a Jew. But the Jew would not eat it, nor would they eat from the dishes and utensils that it was on at least until they were ritually cleansed.