At my Fathers funeral last december, we went to the cremation first and had him bagpiped in. This was for family only. We then a service in his church that was to celebrate his life. I read the eulogy myself as I remember at my Mums funeral the minister made mistakes that really annoyed me. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done.
A comment from one of my friends fathers after the service "not a proper funeral without a body" - never liked him much anyway.

we had a wake at the golf club - he would have been sorry to miss that............. I miss my Dad

pat x