To tell someone who is in exactly the same position as you are vis a vis a web site that their opinions don't matter, is tantamount to saying that YOUR opinions don't matter either.
This is one of the things I'm trying to point out by starting this thread, each side uses the same arguments against the other.
As has been said we have discussed this endlessly, and this is my futile attempt to take the personalities out of it, and discuss it like adults.
Thanks Ragdall for putting into words for me, some of the things I'm trying to point out. DO read her post again folks, it encapsulates the situation.
Giok