I have said to them that "the volume knob works both ways". They look blank at you. My dynamic range - given I start with very little is chronic, earplugs make it worse.

There is a band that are arrogant about their noise. If you don't like them - don't book them - they say. But I don't book bands. I don't dance to them - because they are too fast for the dynamics of the second order system that is my mass and spring rate (muscles/tendons) they are beyond my resonant frequency and that takes more effort and is no fun. Fast walk is all you can do. They want to be a caberet band - well bloodywell hurry-up then. You know who you are.