I am with you there Lucy.

My duaghter is still not eating nuts.

A couple of years ago, another dinner lady, saw my daughter with a full mouth of food, and said to her "You musn't do that you will choke to death. You have too eat very slowly."

It took us a year to get her to eat normally again. She used to eat a very very very small piece of bread at a time and took about five minutes before she had satisfied herself that she wouldn't choke from it. Consequently she never finished a quarter of her lunch, becuase the lunch break was over.