How would it be good for my daughter if her mother fell into prostitution or other worst case scenario's as a result of having the rug pulled?

She will have hard realities to face about her mother as it is as she grows up without having to face up to that kind of possibility.

This is one frustrating aspect. When you have a child, you become two people - yourself but also your childs parent.

I believe we define ourselves by our actions.

In a world of individuals, go ahead, define yourself how you like. But in your own childs interests let them have a definition of their mommy/daddy that they can feel good about.

My ex is running around defining her daughters mother in as uncompromisingly negative a way as she can.

If I push that deeper by really leaving her in the s**t then how am I helping her emotional health?

At the end of the day I know that above all, honesty is paramount and it is according to that maxim that I will measure each decision I make - but it's not easy