Wasn't d's invitation withdrawn, and wasn't this on the basis that while he may have been publicly chastised in an inapoproprite way, the fact remains that he still commited a dismissable offence?
The bouncer/s may have over reacted, but the person who's party it is did back their original decision that d should be suspended sine die. Ergo whatever anonymous supporters may say the management's decision is final.

In the heat of the moment yes it was. In the ensuing aftermath it is no longer shambles who is the problem.It is the baying pack who chortle and slather.

If I asked d to leave and he didn't I would eject him forcibly. However as a human I can reflect and decide my initial response was the wrong one. I can sit back and watch the unsavoury mob whip themselves up into a very embarrassing frenzy.

Their numbers are dwindling as the more tuned in ones recognise what they have become. The hard nosed among them are clinging onto non existent straws. I don't have a problem with d. The majority of my guests don't have a problem with d. The VERY FEW who do have a problem with d are going to either implode ( which adds some kind of perverse entertainment) or skulk away.

But either way d is my guest in my house by my choice.