Lox - you don't seem to have heard me or read my post based on your response to others.

For heaven's sake.. I WAS your 'daughter' at one point in my life. I can tell you right now that I would love to have been able to foster some resentment towards a parent who protected me from the addict parent. Unfortunately, no such protection took place nor does it seem to be likely to take place for your daughter given your co-dependent hemming and hawing about what some future set of circumstances with her mohter will do to your duaghter.

Please hear me. You are spinning your wheels in this thread and using circular reasoning to justify not taking any action. Get some professional help for yourself or get to an Alanon meeting. You are currently part of the problem and can only be the solution if you choose to be. Your ex is not the enemy but she is the looming threat to your child's safety. You didn't put the drugs in her hand, you won't take them out of her hand but you CAN (with help from the court) mitigate the damage she has already done to your baby and will continue to do unless you take steps to stop it NOW.. not tomorrow, not after you sort out all the potential and theoretical implications.. NOW.

I'm done with this.