Part of the ritual is that if you meet a Brother Mason in a distressed situation you try to help

And you meet a non-Brother Mason in the same state are you encouraged to just give them a sly kick? I suspect not - so why make the distinction at all?

Alan I mean no offence to you, but surely folk can do equally good work without the secrecy, exclusion and ritual and as many organisations do manage to do this - is there really a future for adults indulging in things like wearing aprons, having funny handshakes and secret signals?