"Far from there being an 'overwhelming number' the opposite is true."

Guest, I do agree with you. That was the point I was trying to make. The number of "moaners" seems to be significantly higher than the number of bouncers/moderators.

There are "moaners" on both sides of the arguement too. It is not a one way street.

Screw examples! That is a red herring here. Very few people live up to the standards that they themselves set, and when it comes to our "party" the happy medium is always the best solution. I've been to parties where the host has too much to drink, but he is also taking car keys away from others before they can drive off. Leading by example is always a goal, but we are all human (thank god.)

People make mistakes and will go to the party and give the hosts rug a cigarette burn, and the host may spill the coffee over a guest as well - but we move on. Mistakes happen, no big deal. Apologies, if needed, are said. The ground rules might be repeated, and the party continues on.   If you dwell on the fact that someone threw up on the cat, then the fun stops. If someone has to leave, so be it. If the host has to tighten up the list, so be it.   Clean up the cat and party on.