"But for what it is worth, my prefence is for groups that will change its requirements to accomodate our individual differences rather than those which expect individuals to suit the group's requirements."

But then the group ceases to have any definition and loses its identity. Can an atheist be a Catholic priest? Can I join the University of XYZ Alumni Association if I never attended XYZ? Would a choir be considered unfair and inflexible if it excluded the tone-deaf? Can a white Baptist join the Fruit of Islam?

It actually works the other way. If an organization defines itself by certain criteria and if I don't meet, or don't choose to meet, those criteria, then it's me that needs to move on. The alternative is for every group to admit every applicant, with no requirements, until every group is exactly like every other group--bland and meaningless.
Makes no sense.

(And yes, I'm a guest. I tried to join the forum but for whatever reason the software did not accept my application. Must be some grand Masonic conspiracy.)