Okay - I am still trying to understand this:

You have said you do not wish to tell Max how to run his site.

You have said that you understand that the forum is part of Max's site.

The moderators are delegated by Max to do the day to day running of the site; (which you have said you don't want to tell Max how to do)

So why do you want to discuss changing things if you don't want to tell Max how to run things, when they are doing what Max has requested of them?