Shambles, I do not know the whole story because I have not followed it from the beginning, and it appears that some of your posts were deleted if I what I have read is true. It is hard to get a complete picture.   I do see a number of people who seem to continually harp on you, make comments about you in other threads, and then complain that YOU are the obsessive one! How odd is that?

As for the party, I am not sure how many parties you go to but usually the ones I attend will have more than one conversation going on at a time. In a corner of the living room there will be a group discussing sports, in another corner of the room there may be a discussion over the latest episode of CSI. In the kitchen there may be a discussion of movies going on. People drift in and out at parties, just like they do on Mudcat.

When I go to a party, I realize that my "rights" are restricted. I am following the hosts rules - as strict or relaxed as they make them. I have witnessed people ganging up on individuals when there is a disagreement (New Jersey parties can be rough!!) and the host is usually the final arbitrator.

As you say, it "is not the guest's/poster's call. It is our host's". If anyone calls for your banishment, it is utimately the hosts decision.   Of course, that works as a two way street. If you are claiming that individuals do not have the "right" to impose their views about you, then you do not have the right to post your views about any change you would like to see in the way this system operates.

Because there has been limited action taken by the host, the posts will continue. People will continue to gang up on you, and you will continue to state your case.

Just to be clear - I do not want to see you banned. I did not want to see Martin Gibson banned either.   I respect the hosts decisions, even if I don't always agree with them. They do what they feel is right for the system that they operate.