Crowhugger,Your suffer from PTSD? I knew there was something I liked about you--I was in an accident 13 years ago and have gone through(and am going through), and I have a stack ofmedical reports with those very same letters on them. I suspect, much of the same stuff that you do--from family Hell to Medical Care Hell, to Social Services Hell, and even Legal System Hell--
They tell us, in such a high-minded way, that the caste system in India is barbaric--what they don't say is that we have a caste system in the West, and the Untouchables are the disabled, and particularly those with a disability that includes pyschological deficits (actually, all disablities have associated psychological deficits)
I have and use a disabled parking placard(I have motor impairments, as well, and my daughter has CP) and it takes a while to get used to the stares that you get--
Anyway, over the years, I have had a great deal of practice trying to explain--well, you know what--if you need any help, in dealing with anything, please feel free to send a personal message--I can help you find resources for almost any sort of problem--