I reckon the question to ask yourself is : how would you feel if you don't go ahead? Imagine yourself taking the decision not to go ahead, and see how it feels. If it feels wrong then you know that you should go ahead. If it feels right then that helps as well. That is the strategy I always use when on the horns of a dilema. If I can't make a decision then I just arbitrarily choose one side & try it out for size - it usually shows me which way to go. Basically its how I decided to stick with my marriage (by deciding not to & feeling bereft!) & how my sister decided not to stick with hers (by deciding not to & feeling releieved). Kris