The pain never stops, it only becomes numbed over time. If you're lucky enough to find someone else (in 20 years I haven't), maybe it numbs more quickly...

There's always some 'helpful' soul out there with platitudes... 'plenty more fish in the sea' (fish?!), 'love comes when you least expect it' (like finding something in the last place you look!!) and all that stuff. It makes them feel better because they think they're helping, but often it makes you feel worse, inadequate, etc.

Cynical? Moi?!!!

Chocolate...!

;o)