I think you are only mentally ill if you Do Not give all your love and compassion to the new Lady in your life.

Yesterday is dead and gone. Your wife loved you, now you need to share that love and more with this new light of your life.

Finding a good woman is hard enough, much less one with such musical talents. You have had at least two good women so far! Sure, seek professional help but do not pass this opportunity up.

I think we are all "mixed-up" mentally and those that are able to keep above depression etc. just have more of certain chemicals affecting particular areas of the brain than others. Exercise, prescription medication, and therapy will help. Keep a positive attitude too.

I admire the honesty of the members of this forum. You are not alone Raptor!

You are a brave man. Now be all the man you can be and more.