I don't know that one can learn or unlearn love, caring, consideration, communication and all the basics that matter most.

On all other counts, give or take a wrinkle here and a sag there, I wouldn't want to go back 35 years. Older women are usually more relaxed because they don't have to worry about getting pregnant. Older men are generally in less of a rush about the whole thing. What most of us didn't know about sex when we were young and horny and thought we knew everything could fill a book. There's more information out there about sex than ever before, including what to do when the equipment isn't working so well. And speaking of equipment, there's a lot of that too, and it's turning up in the most straightlaced of bedrooms.

I don't buy that sex has to get lousy as one gets older. Different, yes. But maybe better. (And if it's with the same person as when one was young, that is very, very cool.)

Elmer