I assume, since you said in the first post that your husband has severe ADD, that it has at some time been diagnosed? You also say that he has various mental and psychological problems. I would have thought that it would be unlikely that courts would award him custody of a child in view of this. Especially since the child himself does not want to live with his father without you there. Surely they would take that inot account too?

I sympathise strongly with your feelings about commitment etc and often deplore the ease with which some people break up their own homes with the excuse that "It's better for the family to be split rather than the children to live in an unhappy home" Mostly that's a load of rot, but in your case I think it would be valid. It can't do your son any good and certainly isn't doing you any good, to stay in that situation. You have to get out.

Good luck and let us know how it goes

Love Lynne