Guest 05.43, you are obviously living in a world which I seriously doubt rings true.

I wish I lived in ypour world guest, but I live in the REAL world.

Bad things happen guest - it is part of life, some people unfortunately are dealt with a much harsher hand than others.

It is at these times the victims of life need help, support, and good friends not criticism and judgements.

Please, if you cannot say anything nice or supportive, don't say anything at all. This is not the place for derogative comments, given the seriousness of the situation that a member of mudcat is needing help and support with.

I applause this member for having the courage to tell us her situation, which must not have been easy for her to do. BTW Anonymous member, PM if you wish.

My thoughts are with you.