If givers of presents are expecting to see you wearing their presents, that, in itself, is NOT nice.
once I've given a present, what happens with it thereafter isn't my business.
My girlfriend's family hAS HAD THE (sorry) idea of a wishes book. All thru the year whenever there's something someone would like, it gets put in their section of the wishes book (a loose-leaf folder with dividers works well). Then come any present-giving time,it can be organised for everyone to get what they want. Anyone can ask for "a surprise/surprises" too, to deal with an obvious objection.
BexMcG,when you've gently tried to steer your transatlantic relations in the right direction, what did they say?