Thanks for your thoughtful response,Thomas. I agree with much that you say.

As my therapy trainer once said,"What's the point of judging people?"

I also learn a lot from realising that I have made a choice anjd that I can make choices, as distinct from believing there was no alternative. And I learn from from chewing over what's happened and from developing awareness.

A difficulty around criticism is when someone perceives a comment as a criticism where there was no criticism.

Bit like the joke of the mother who gives her son two shirts. He takes them upstairs, looks at them, puts one on, comes down,. and is greeted with his mother's,"So what's wrong with the other one?"

So people of the appropriate psycjhology can set others up so as to induce an apparent criticism.


Oh, and nice to meet you,Thomas. I think this is the first exchange we've had.






       Ivor