"All that's needed is sensitivity."

But the problem is obviously that that sensitivity is often lacking. That is the point of the original poster's suggestion isn't it?

"They/we shouldn't however have to put up with some dickhead 'joining in' ... "

As someone recently said: "That is the point of the original poster's suggestion isn't it?"

How about some responses that actually address Slag's idea, rather than repeat arguments made on the other threads he refers to?